Thursday, July 07, 2005

Bicker Bicker Bicker

It seems like that's all we do lately...BICKER! Jamie and I, that each others throats, complaining, arguing, nit-picking, just plain bickering.

It's mostly my fault. I'm prone to bickering. I try not to but sometimes I let my impatience get the better of me.

Jamie is the worrier...when he is worried, he complains and whines which leads to bickering. Normally he just couldn't be bothered. Good thing.

Here are some of the stupid things that we have "had words" about over the past few days:
1. Who gets to take the car and who gets to take the truck on our separate weekends away.
2. Who gets to take the 407 transponder for the toll highway to drive to our separate destinations.
3. Losing keys.
4. Jamie calling me on my cell phone at work rather than at my desk phone.
5. Growing pile of laundry and who gets to tackle it.
6. When and how to move Jamie's stuff into my apartment. And where to put everything.
7. Grocery lists. Wedding lists. Weekend lists. Cleaning lists.
8. The new Barbeque.
9. Computer usage.
10. What time to begin our drive to PEI.

That is not to mention the wedding details (money, money, money...)

Yes, we really need this weekend for some time apart. This is supposed to be a happy time for us - full of excitement and laughter and love....what happened to all that? I guess it's beneath the surface but it's harder nowadays to scratch under all the layers of other stuff.

We really just gotta wind down and take a deep breathe -- Mostly a message for myself. Enjoy it, don't panic, stop the unnecessary panic attacks and move on to reminding myself WHY all this is happening right now.

Phew...I think I feel better already. Thanks for listening to my bickering.


dafrhug said...

I have a little thing that works for me. Especially when the kids and Colin are getting on my last nerve. I stop and try and imagine what life would be like without them. Makes me realize how lucky I am to have them and it gives me a little more patience. Deep breath while your doing it too. Just think, in two months, none of those things will matter, but you will still have what's important - Jamie.

Quirky Christa said...

Well chicka, us girls will help take all stresses and blues away this weekend! Wooooo-hoooo!! Party on!!

tara said...

Stop and think about what is going to are going to be MARRIED. Remember that it's not about all the day to day detail 'crap' about the wedding or the's about the two of you becoming a family.

I remember I yelled at Jacques (for the first time EVER) one week before we got married on the way to work. I cried all the way to work, then when I arrived at work. When I got to my desk he had left a message to appologize.

Anyways, I hope by the time you read my will have had a 'de-stressing' weekend with the girls!

Let me know if there's anything I can do to help!